Blog Post #3

Having facilitated a few chat cafe circles, I am now feeling a lot more comfortable with my group.  I am no longer stressed about planning conversation topics because I can count on my group having their own questions ready to ask.  So far, some of our most interesting conversations have revolved around holidays, politics, religion, and our hobbies growing up.  Instead of planning in advance, I merely facilitate the discussion to continue if there is ever a lull in conversation.  For example, my group chose to talk about politics.  After Jamie and I answered their questions about our political beliefs, I facilitated the conversation by asking Xin and Kyle questions about similarities and differences between Chinese and Taiwanese politics.  I was able to bring new angles into the conversation, therefore fueling the talking to continue.

My approach to the conversation circles has changed as I have come to realize that neither Xin nor Kyle are very shy.  They are both curious and vocal about American traditions and their own traditions.  As a result, the conversation will almost always carry itself the entire time.  This allows me to spend more time really focusing on and listening to their questions and answers, instead of having half of my mind thinking of what to talk about next.  I am starting to feel less like we are in a school-organized program and more like we are just a group of friends talking at a coffee shop.  So far, my experiences as a chat cafe facilitator have been pleasant, and our weekly meeting have become something I really look forward to attending.